Interracial Couples

The reason you chose each other, why you were attracted to each other, or why your relationship is an incredible source of connection—is because you chose each other specifically.

A unique issue placed on interracial couples is that outsiders will not always affirm your sense of being a couple. Your relationship is questioned, judged, and doubted in ways other relationships are not. You are suddenly tasked with defending and defining the delicate relationship you have created together. Maybe one of you is used to being made to answer for your race and what others perceive to be your culture and personality, whereas the other is new to this. You have co-created a couple but are viewed as fundamentally different.

Are you fetishized, undervalued, or deduced to the sexualization of your race? Are you congratulated with backhanded compliments, painted as the winner/ loser /cheater at some game? All of this complicates and gets in the way of the real intimacy and care that brought you together.

Despite all this, interracial relationships can offer an opportunity to know and accept each other’s true selves. They also offer a chance to nurture a unique connection on a soul level and to be known and valued by someone like never before.