Stacked books of various titles and colors, with some titles visible, including "A Shining Affliction," "Bird by Bird," "Art is a Way of Knowing," "Thin Places," "The Sympathizer," "Running with Scissors," "I Would Meet You Anywhere," "Windows to Our Children," "Interior Chinatown," "The Lonely City," and others.

Unpretentious Psychotherapy in the San Francisco Bay Area.

My name is Victoria Chau, LMFT, and I am a depth-oriented psychotherapist with a private practice based online and in the Bay Area.

I find the generic comfort or empty validation that is sometimes associated with therapy to be patronizing and unhelpful. Instead, I focus on helping clients find relief in hard truths and lasting change.

Are we a good fit for each other?

The clients who find me want to feel like they are talking to a real person. I’m a good fit for people seeking help with big, ambiguous dread and those who feel a general aversion to the current “wellness” trends.

I believe a lot of the products or messages we are sold to help us feel better are more about keeping up appearances than they are about the truth of how messed up our world is, and all the lengths we will go to to belong somewhere. I love parsing through the anxious, spiralling thoughts we get stuck in and helping clients find relief in hard truths.

Initial reasons people reach out:

  • Feeling lonely and rejected by the people around you, and anxious that the life you've fought to create will collapse in on itself.

  • Having a profound feeling of not belonging anywhere.

  • Feeling haunted or even cursed by your childhood, your past choices, or by a larger power.

  • Having a sense that you’ve gotten as far as you can on your own, with a wariness of anyone selling a quick fix.

I think you can learn a lot about someone from their bookshelf; here’s part of mine.

A shelf filled with various books, including titles such as 'The Genius of the Bengali', 'Malay Bamutford', 'Undramatizing Vietnamese Authentic', 'The Experience of the Lonely City', and 'Running with Scissors'.